Episode 17 The beginning of a new era

Wow! so much has happened!

A death & rebirth
New program has started
Friendships have ended and new ones have started
A photoshoot
A stylist
Astrologist 

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Hello, I can't believe it's taken this long. But welcome back to the I'm proud of you Bay podcast. This is season two, episode one. And we'll start with a life update and then some mind blowing amazingness Okay, the last episode was at the beginning of December and then since then one hell of a lot of stuffs happened. And I'll share that with you now. And most of it's really good stuff, actually. But my soul also went on a death and rebirth. That was pretty interesting. But yeah, second of December was the last episode. And that finished off season one. This year 2023. Season two, I don't even know where it's going to take us. I never really plan ahead my episodes, I just love to be small sort of spontaneous, that might change as my business strengthens, grows and evolves. But right now it's all about the spontaneity. And I really want to remind myself of how much I do adore doing this and how much fun I get to have doing it. And that it really resonates with you. And this is where it bring, I bring it back to you. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you for your patience while I was away, I'm sure you are listening to a load of other amazing podcasts. But from the bottom of my heart, thank you for coming back and listening to Season Two with me. So the first major thing was we moved house we were renting in Auckland, we're still in Auckland, New Zealand. But we've moved from a very big rental to a big but not as big four bedroom house that we bought, yay, my first home I've owned I've owned in the palm before, but this is my first home where I actually have outside space and a deck and all of that amazingness. And as someone who has constantly been living basically in the flight response, and also I just don't think I'm ever going to be a maximalist that collects lots of stuff like my partner, it's very easy and quick for me to move. When I was scared and fearful all throughout my 20s in the UK, I would always make sure subconsciously that all my stuff could fit into my car. So if I ever needed to run away, because I fell out with a flatmate, or anything like that, I could just put it all in my car and go. And that reminds me, I then had a motorbike for a while in Scotland. And then when I did have to leave, sort of in hurry, it was the middle of winter, and it was snowing it down like anything, and I taken all my stuff in my car, but I still have my motorbike up there. And the amount of discomfort I felt about sort of a piece of me being left behind, because I always used to keep all my things close to me and couldn't understand why people would spread their belongings around and not really care even within a house, let alone around the country. And that motorbike not being near me or not being able where I could make sure it was okay. And it could be you know, damaged or stolen. Man did it freak me out. And that was the first time that I'd had to have a big split. But that's an aside, like as I've worked on my personal growth journey, I've been able to work with my nervous system rewire the thoughts, stories, beliefs, and patterns that kept me trapped in that very small sort of belongings and stuff. So that there are the people out there that are sort of nomadic and world travellers. And that kind of I see as the healthy side of it. They are literally enjoying the most incredible life ever, with a smaller bout of possessions, whereas the way I was doing it, it was a fear based response to never feeling like I felt safe anywhere, anywhere at all. So how does that relate to our move? I never have that much stuff. You could have hired a small van and I put it all my clothes and dustbin bags because it's so easy and then you can throw them out afterwards. And I would have been done in One trip with a small van, whereas my partner is the opposite of me. He has so much stuff, but it's all beautiful stuff. It's all high quality, collectible items that increase in value, he enjoys them. He takes pride in them. And I've been learning a lot from him. But when it comes to moving man, we moved on the 17th of December. And we're nearly two months after that. And we still haven't fully unpacked and I can't even do it because it's not my stuff. So my neat freak in me is having to do a lot of growth when it comes to having mess around me. And we've had his dad over from Australia, we've had my mom and her partner over from England. And we've both been working full time. So it's a really good lesson for me in patience and releasing control and trying to sort of fix it straightaway. So yeah, that's one big thing I've been doing enjoying this beautiful space. Love learning to live with a little bit of mess and realising that it can't look perfect straightaway. I've managed to put my mark on the house quite a bit already, because I worked with the builder, who was a family friend is a family friend, which was amazing. So I picked the most juiciest black, I could, but actually, it's more of like a very dark brown. I searched warm black because I wanted it to feel warm, not cold. And I didn't even see the paint until it was on the walls. I just seen a picture of it. And I'm obsessed. It's so elegant. So I've got all the doors in my house panelled doors are this muddy chocolate, dark brown, black, I've got my bedroom and my partner's room are his sort of safe I've like we call it the toy room. Black ceilings, the bathrooms, the whole lots black, like the ceiling and the walls. And I love it. I love it. I love it. And then in some of the other rooms, we've just got a feature wall that that same muddy brown black. The continuity of it, the elegance of it, the bouncing off the brass hardware I've got everywhere, it just makes my Scorpio nurse, very, very, very happy. And I've moved on to the next big huge project is painting a lot of the outside fence black, like black, black. And it's infuriating, because I can't get in the gaps. So I have to go back through with a smaller brush. And even then it's really tricky. And again, test of my patience, like I just want to go over how just hire a painter, and then I'll be done. But thing is I don't have unlimited money, I would love to instead spend that money on some artwork that we need in the house. So I have to again, learn the patience of actually play, you really enjoy painting, it's outside, it gets you fresh air, it's really calming. And it puts you in that Zen space of mind. So actually is really, really, really good for me. So I'm going to be working with that. And it's quite ironic, really because I don't know if you've ever worked out your gene keys. Impatience and timelessness is the ultimate that I meant to go through on a journey one of the ones that I meant to go through and impatience is sort of the shadow of it. So as part of my life journey, the influence that human design astrology and the gene keys have had on my life are still there. Eight months through from when I first heard about them and had some readings and I've got a insanely amazing reading coming up with a few want to check her out. Her name's Diane Saab. Her Instagram handle is called Voice of the sacred. And I've never met such an eloquent, magical, insanely clever astrologer who's really walking her own path astrology and she's actually started just learning human design as well and she'll blow everyone out of the water, her depth of understanding and not accepting the status quo of what other astrologers have interpreted. The stars sign everything to be just blows me away. So she's asked me what I want to focus Is the session on and we're going to do, how to make my business more aligned with the astrological path that I'm meant to walk, how my offers are going to be so deeply aligned with my gift and what I'm meant to give to the world. And then how in the day to day running of it, we can make it feel more like flow and less like hard work. So I cannot wait to it's going to be so so cool. I've also got a photoshoot coming up with Nimi creative is her Instagram handle, make sure you go to Namie creative 2.0. She's based in Raglan on the coast on the west coast, the wild west coast. Two hours drive south of where I am now. And her photos are just beyond stunning. And I do need some new branding photoshoots for my website and also for some programmes that I have coming up. But they're also this is also for me, this is also to celebrate me and my uniqueness and not wanting to diet or try and look a certain way. It's more like how can I bring out my story and me on the camera, working with the most beautiful. One of the most beautiful photographers that I found and she's in the country. The fun of this is actually going to be because I have massive interest. And this is going to come out in one of my next programmes coming up in archetypal psychology, and I met through my gorgeous friend Tammy, a stylist who lives and works in Auckland called Caitlin. I think Instagrams called the Kaelyn, the style coach, and she's got a degree in psychology, and she works with people's archetypes and what they want to bring out in their style. And she sold me on that she's so me, it's not even funny. So we're going to sit down for a juicy brainstorming Pinterest session at the end of February. And I've taught and I've kind of got an idea of the archetypes that I want to bring out sort of the leader, the Queen energy, the rebel, and the wise sage. And those three seem to be what my brand is based around. And it's interesting because as I've found those and finding myself and my unique blend, because we all have a unique blend of archetypes that we have. And the more we kind of find ourselves within those, the more we know what's missing what we need to turn the volume up in, in our life. And we can do that in a multitude of different ways. By the way, the soul we spend our days, the people that we surround ourselves, the things that we watch, listen to the clothes we wear, the way we decorate our house, the holidays that we go on the alignment and the sense of I'm doing me I'm doing life my way. archetypes can be a fantastic way of doing that. So Caitlin and I are going to sit down and we're going to brainstorm and order instant super cool clothes to be able to take down with me to work with Namie in April. So I've done the house, I've talked about business a little bit. And patients gene keys, my astrology reading boss, so much good thumbs up. And right now I am running my course called patterns of empowerment. And I have some beautiful ladies in there. And we're meeting once a week on a zoom call. And then in the Facebook community group that I've set up, and this is all about sort of dialling down the stress that we feel in our life tuning into our body listening to the signs, so that we don't walk around like sort of headless heads, head, no heads, you know, without a body and we can do that. And then this is what means we don't listen or tune in to the thoughts and the sensations that we feel in our body. And then we feel like we snap react and next minute was screaming our kids heads off. We're sending a snarky nasty email. We're having a panic attack, anxiety, attack, all of that stuff. So for six gorgeous weeks, I'm with these ladies with lots of learning and integration and embodiment. And yeah, I love it. And I kind of feel like it's a one on one of sort of emotional regulation and understanding how we can not kind of feel like we're reacting and instead we learn how to respond in a cool calm and collected way. Now, the next part of this This is I unfortunately wasted a whole bunch of money last year on copywriters branding before I'd found myself in the level that I have right now in my business, the message that I have and how I want to articulate that. But it's also amazing because it's landing right now. And I feel like I'm cracking wide open, the light bulbs are turning on, and it's the most gorgeous, luscious feeling. But it was preceded by a whole bunch of pain and confusion and discomfort. And that's part of the rebirth that I feel that I was going through. There are other elements to it, but I'll focus on this for now. So when the copywriters the gorgeous copywriters they're amazing. They were asking me, Where are your ideal client now? Where are they sitting? And where do they want to go? I could talk very clearly about the pain that they're experiencing now. The self hatred, the low self worth the reacting, the insomnia, the scared, feeling the fears, all of that very, very well, because I've been there, and I know what it's like. But there was something missing when they said, Well, where do they want to go. And it's funny that this is landing now. But they weren't ready because I wasn't ready to step into the leadership role to lead their life in the way that they want to, to carve out the past that they want not constantly be reacting and thinking, Well, what's going to happen today? What's going to go wrong today on the defensive, to scared to take action to worried about judgement, rejection, conflict. And in all areas of our life, the way we dress, the way we eat our health, exercise. Are you leading your day? Or is your day leading you? I use the analogy on my Instagram Stories The other day when I was talking about it's like, stop being a lady in waiting and your own life. And partly thanks to my mentor, Haley at the moment, Haley Lloyd, who teaches people to step into the shoes of the leader that they are. And she is incredibly successful, incredibly, multifaceted, deep human being. And we align on a lot of the areas of interest. She's a business coach and mindset. I'm purely a mindset coach that looks very heavily into emotional regulation and pattern work. And then adding this next layer as I embody the leader that I am, the it's all landing. It's like, this is what I want to create other kind, compassionate, empathetic, strong, resilient leaders that are able to handle themselves with grace and elegance throughout the storms of life, but also create the joys beyond their wildest dreams. And yeah, still landing but Holy, holy, holy moly. The death part has definitely been some people leaving my life some not through my choice, but it's been a I guess it's chosen for me. Some friendships ending some other beautiful ones beginning. And I've just like I've just leaned into the journey, even more of how life will serve me if I let it and how I can lead myself through this change as I elevate into the bigger vision dreaming bigger, creating discomfort and growth on an even bigger level. And I cannot wait to see where it takes me. I cannot wait to watch the growth of the clients that I have in my world because as I grow they grow. So yeah, lots. I'm not going to just talk and talk and talk. This is where I am right now. I've moved house. I'm adoring making it a home. I have running patterns of empowerment and just adoring the women in there and we're only on week one If you want to join, you still can find me on Instagram Chloe Graham official and send me a DM and we'll see how we can get you in. And then watch the magic unfold for 2023 Because the next two programmes that I'm going to release are going to be epic, and I cannot wait to lead them. So thank you. I'll leave you with this. How can I lead my day to day rather than let leading me and how can I be the leader of my own life rather than staying in the lady and waiting in my own life? And as always, I'm proud of you. Until next time, Bye